Re: I Noticed You Signed The President’s Birthday Card, but…

Dear Jordan,

Since the Republicans decided to sue President Obama (an act, by the way, which is infuriating me more than anything that has occurred in politics since the Supreme Court decided to grant W the presidency in 2000), I have received – wait, let me count them – 36 emails asking me to donate to the Democrats. Since Friday. From Barack himself, several times. From Michelle and Joe Biden and Nancy Pelosi and Debbie Wasserman Schultz and Paul Begala. And I understand, believe me, and support these efforts. But I have had to delete every email, even though I was able to give multiple extremely modest amounts of money leading up to the 2012 re-election campaign.

This latest email pointed out that since I signed the president’s birthday card, I should put my money where my mouth is (or my finger, in this case, on the screen of my phone). That a birthday gift Barack would REALLY appreciate would be a donation of $10 or $20 or $200, or hey, even another amount.

I know. Believe me, I do.

But this last request, implying that if I REALLY want to have the president’s back on his birthday I should put up or shut up, has inspired me to explain my dire circumstances. Since Obama won re-election in 2012, I have had to leave my full time job with my City’s Xxxxx & Xxxxxxxxxx Department due to my severe chronic migraine headaches. I applied for Disability benefits, and on my very first attempt, the SSA determined me to be OFFICIALLY disabled, too sick to work, signed sealed delivered (oh yeah!)BUT wait! I was not eligible for actual monetary benefits because I’d been paying into the Ohio PERS system rather than Social Security. So I also applied for SSI, but due to my husband’s salary – he makes FOURTEEN DOLLARS AN HOUR – I only receive $148 per month.

Jordan, my husband and I have two beautiful, intelligent and creative school age daughters. Jxxx’s paychecks after deductions add up to a monthly income of $2400. Approximately. Sometimes less. Do you want to know what he does? He used to be a kindergarten teacher at a Title 1 school in Xxxxxxx, Ohio. Now he works for a county agency called Xxxxxxx Xxxxxx Xxxxxx as a Community Psychiatric Support Treatment Specialist; basically his job is crisis management and counseling for children and their families. Last Thursday he was called to handle a terrifying life and death situation for a client’s family, and accomplished that feat successfully. But you know what Jordan? Jxxx doesn’t make enough money to support his OWN family. Even though that paltry salary is apparently deemed too much for me to receive the full amount of SSI normally granted to a disabled individual in Ohio.

So also last week, I applied online for Ohio’s SNAP benefits. Food stamps. We are only eligible for $78 per month. Again, not really a whole lot of help there, though I am truly grateful for the government assistance I receive and I understand we’re not supposed to be comfortable, cause you know, we’re supposed to pull ourselves up by our boot straps and fight for the American Dream in our spare time.

Medicaid, however, does feel miraculous, considering the amount of expensive medical care my chronic illness requires. Due to the Affordable Care Act, Ohio expanded Medicaid, which makes my family an Obamacare success story.

But there is not one penny extra. Not $10 or $20 or $200.

So please, Jordan, don’t imply that the only way I can support my beloved president is to donate money to the Democratic Party. Tell him. Tell Barack, tell Joe, Michelle, Nancy, Debbie, Paul and all your other friends to STOP ASKING. We are the fallen middle class; my husband works 50 hours per week helping to save Xxxx County’s troubled families, and he himself is one of the many millions of working poor in this country.

I love President Obama. I tell everyone I know and share petitions on Facebook and Twitter and defend him and get teary watching him speak. I can continue doing this without pledging financial support because I CANNOT AFFORD TO DONATE. I CANNOT EVEN AFFORD TO FEED MY OWN FAMILY.

Jordan, thank you for your time and understanding. I know you are just doing your job. And you know what? I support you, too.

Elizabeth X. Xxxxxxx-Xxxxxx
(XXXX County, which made all-important Ohio go blue in both 2008 and 2012)
Health advocate for Headache Disorders and blogger at
Home owner, partner, mother, and proud liberal Democrat.

“That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

On Jul 31, 2014, at 6:55 PM, “Jordan Kaplan,” wrote:

Most nights, while I’m swaying my baby daughter to get her to fall asleep, I suddenly realize that there is something else that I needed to get done that day — you might know what I’m talking about, Elizabeth.

For example, I noticed you signed President Obama’s birthday card, and I know he’ll really appreciate that. But I also noticed you haven’t chipped in to support Democrats this month. Donate $10 or more to elect Democrats and take care of that right now.

If you’ve saved your payment information, your donation will go through immediately.






Or donate another amount.

Life gets hectic for everyone, and we all forget to do things from time to time, even when we’re waiting to sneak out of our kids’ rooms once they’re asleep. But that’s why I’m here to help you out and give you a reminder.

You’re a great supporter, Elizabeth, and I’m glad to have you on the team. Let’s make sure we elect more Democrats in November:



Jordan Kaplan
Finance Director
Democratic National Committee

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***Addendum: this is an edited version of the actual email I sent back to Jordan Kaplan of the Democratic Party after receiving 36 requests for money within a 6 day period. That’s six emails per day, and I couldn’t take it anymore. I don’t have any delusions about anyone there reading it, or taking it seriously… but I hope someone does, because the impact of migraine disease on my family has been devastating in so many ways, not least of which is financial. And I want that burden to be understood by as many people as possible.

Most importantly, though, YOU read it. And, I hope, read other posts, and can understand my perspective of illness, poverty, love, and family. Thank you… from the bottom of my poor, pained heart. ~elizabeth

4 Comments Add yours

  1. My neck is giving me a headache says:

    I hear you. I get them too. Here in CA I work for the government. I am barely surviving. I am watching my friends taking their retirement to different countries. They can’t survive here. I see the middle class literally slipping away. I just want to work as long as I can.

    1. ladymigraine says:

      I hope you can! After I resigned, I pulled my PERS retirement to live off of; John did the same when he quit teaching. To be honest – we would have already lost our home if my parents were not still able to help us in a fairly significant way. It’s terrifying, like hanging off a cliff by your fingernails, a child clinging on each side… AND you have a headache 😉 I’m glad john has a job he loves but nothing in his field will ever pay enough… thank you for reading, I hope you’re feeling well! ~elizabeth

      1. My neck is giving me a headache says:

        You are very lucky to have your parents. I really don’t have anyone. Take care.

      2. ladymigraine says:

        I’m sorry to hear that. It’s hard to feel lucky at times, considering our troubles with health and finances, but I know I am, and that my situation could be much, much worse. You take care also.

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